Raising just one child already requires a lot of time, energy and money. And for some people, they are only able to have one. But if I were given the opportunity to have more than one child, I would.
Being an only child can be either good or bad, depending on how you perceive it and how you are brought up Being an only child your parents.
The advantages could be that you get the undivided love and attention of your parents. They would dote on you more and provide for you more - in terms of getting you stuff, toys, etc. Obviously, being an only child means that your parents have only you to spend the money on and not have to share it among other siblings.
As an only child, you may also be spared the complications arising out of having an overbearing, unhelpful, competitive sibling. It is no fun having a sibling like this, who hoards the attention of your parents, who in the eyes of your parents can do no wrong and is doted upon to no end, often at your expense.
They may well walk off with much of the inheritance by virtue of being the doted one in the family. As an only child, you would be free of any of these complications.
Not having an older sibling to help you every step of the way may in that sense be beneficial and make you capable of looking after yourself earlier in life. Therefore, being an only child can certainly have its advantages. As far as disadvantages go, the "Little Emperor Syndrome" comes to mind. For those unfamiliar with the term, "Little Emperor Syndrome" refers to the Chinese situation involving parents and their single child.
Little Emperor Syndrome is an unintended consequence of that policy. This is a situation in which the parents lavish their love, attention, resources on this one child of theirs, and as a result, the child becomes spoilt and, well, behaves like a "Little Emperor.
The child gets used to having everything done, managed, taken care of - by their parents. When they have to live in the real world and face real problems, they might not be able to cope with it.
They may lack self-confidence to go out in the world and get things done for themselves. They might feel lost outside of the cocoon that their parents created for them.
This of course need not always be the case and can be overcome by good parenting. Perhaps the most apparent disadvantage of being an only child is the feeling of loneliness - not having a sibling to play with regularly and to be able to share your thoughts and memories with.
When you parents are no longer around, not having a sibling to talk about things with or look up to for any kind of help or support can be quite a disadvantage.
Also, when you parents get older, being an only child, you would have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of your parents on your own, which might be overwhelming.
As an only child, you may also face an immense pressure put on you by your parents; for example, to keep the family name going or to do well in your academics. As an only child, you would also be watched with an eagle eye by your parents and this may be quite suffocating and stressful for you.
This again would be a highly subjective experience. There may be many who may feel no stress at all and are able to take this pressure, real or perceived, within their stride.
However, how each child turns out - really depends on how the child has been brought up, among other factors. Personally, I always wished I was the only child in my family. You know, the grass always seems greener on the other side. In my specific situation, the age gap between me and my brother was just 3 years, and therefore, there was a lot of rivalry and acrimony between us - all through childhood - it affected me quite a bit, not the usual childhood fights, which you grow out of.
Being the eldest in my family, I always felt that I was not treated fairly when it came to certain situations, especially conflict situations. I was always expected to be magnanimous and largehearted and forgive and forget - whereas my younger brother was doted on and shielded.
I still feel that to be the case to this day. That there is really no discrimination so to speak.
But, then again, there is a difference, you know what I mean?unsplash/pexels. Being the center of your world doesn't mean your child only has high self-esteem either.
Psychology Today also notes that only children often enjoy being the center of attention. Jun 09, · Lauren Sandler is the author of the forthcoming book “One and Only: The Freedom of Having an Only Child and the Joy of Being One.”.
Jan 16, · Being an only child taught me the most valuable skill of all: the ability to be alone. Sure, I had friends growing up, but I was just as content to sit in my bedroom alone, playing with my. I am an only child and now a parent to who will likely be an only child.
People say I'm the most extroverted introvert they know. I was painfully shy as a child but grew out of it through my 20s (and even into my 30s - but there are still times I would rather be by my own than in a group).
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